Using reflection to find direction:
We’ve all felt lost at one time or another in our life and we will probably feel that way again at some point because it is the cycle of life. Feelings of doubt and confusion can be all consuming, holding our minds hostage with anxiety and “what if” scenarios. But never fear because we have many tools to help us find our way! One of the greatest tools being a dialogue with ourselves and to begin this conversation we must ask questions, but not just any questions. It is vital that these questions be mindful and framed properly, because these inquiries will not only help you make the toughest of decisions but they will guide your path and set the tone for your future.
Each question leads to its own unique answer or in some cases many answers. These answers will lead you to emotions, which lead to actions, then followed by results. Asking yourself “in the box” type questions will give you “in the box” type results. If you ask “out of the box”, open minded, unfiltered questions then our answers will be much more rewarding and impactful.
For example if you ask questions like:
“Why am I always unlucky?” “What if I did that at a different time in my life?”
This type of question will most likely get unproductive and disempowering answers because these questions put the focus on the past and things we can no longer control.
More effective questions look like this:
“What can I learn from this?” “What am I grateful for?” “How can I better support myself and my goals?”
These questions are much more open, empowering, and they give you a positive tone to move forward with in your thought process.
So let's give it a go! I have some of my favorite reflection questions listed here for you to try. At first it might be hard to come up with answers, that is okay! You are human, take your time and keep an open mind. Allow yourself to have short, long, serious, emotional and even silly answers. Take notice of what pops up immediately in your mind after asking yourself a question, don’t edit your thoughts. Be completely honest with yourself and dive deep. Enjoy!
Is my happiness dependent on others or myself?
Am I more concerned with how my life looks or how it feels?
When was the last time I tried something new?
Am I doing what I really want or what I think I should be doing?
When was the last time I said “I love you” to myself?
Who do I need to forgive today?
What does my future self have for me?
What is my body trying to tell me?
What can I let go of?
Am I setting boundaries and feeling Comfortable saying no?
Am I living in the present?
And my focusing on what I want rather than what I don’t want?
Am I cheating on my future with my past?
What am I doing today getting me closer to where I want to be tomorrow?
Am I my own best friend?
Am I comfortable with myself?